I’m pregnant and feeling pretty out of this world! We haven’t experienced anything that compares to this excitement and don’t think we ever will. I feel absolutely divine and grateful to be on this journey.
Although my husband and I suspected that I was with child days before we took the at-home test, it was still a very pleasant surprise. My body had already let me know that something changed. The weeks leading up to the test, I felt continuous, minor cramping, my breasts, including my nipples, were unusually tender, and they appeared to be larger than usual. My sleeping pattern had become irregular, and at one point during a breakfast on the beach in Florida, I felt nauseated. My husband urged me to take a test after my obsessive counting and recounting of the days since the first day of my last menstrual cycle, but I kept putting it off until “tomorrow.” After 35 days had passed since my previous period, we grabbed a test from the pharmacy and had already started mentally and emotionally preparing for the biggest change in our lives.
I now know what women mean when they say waiting for the results was the longest two minutes of their lives. When I looked at the test I said to my husband, “It’s negative.” I was absolutely disappointed. I wanted so desperately for the test to have a positive result. Then I realized I misread the results, and it was in fact positive. This surge of pure bliss ran through me from my toes to the crown of my head. We laughed hysterically with excitement and I even did a happy-dance around the bedroom.
I’ve had a lot of wonderful moments happen in my life but this, by far, is the most amazing feeling I think I’ve ever felt. We called both of our parents to share the great news and the first thing my Dad said was “Finally! Congratulations!” Then my mother proceeded to say, “Yes you’re having my baby!”
My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and for almost 7 years, friends, family, colleagues, and just about everyone else on this planet have asked us, “When are you having kids?” or “Why haven’t you had kids yet?” I feel those are pretty inappropriate questions, because they are very personal. Often times the questions were followed by assumptions that something was/is wrong with us. Bottom line is we weren’t the couple who felt the need to rush into having kids right after marriage. Living life on our own terms has always been important to us, and there were things we both wanted to accomplish individually and collectively before making the commitment to bring another beautiful human into this world.
Creating another person wasn’t and still isn’t something we take lightly. We are ambitious, goal-oriented folks so we were focused on our careers and building lives that we love while setting ourselves up for a family. We want to secure our own, and our child’s future financially, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We have so much more knowledge to give our son or daughter. We’ve lived a lot more of life and we can give adequate advice based upon our experiences which will help us to better guide our child through this cruel world. I have learned valuable lessons, gained more culture, increased knowledge of self, and understand how society and it’s systems work, and I can pass this information down and better prepare my little one(s) earlier in life. What we know will only allow us to instill strength, courage, wisdom, and true knowledge into the person that we have created together.
Once I hit my thirties, I repeatedly told myself, “Don’t wait too much longer.” I had ingrained into my mind that conception would be complicated once I hit 35 years old. Although I understand a woman’s body changes dramatically once she turns 30, I then told myself, “Don’t let anything that hasn’t proven to affect you dictate how you live your life.” So I waited a little longer. My mother-in-law joked and said, “You all will be some of the oldest parents at your children’s school.” It’s probably true.
I read an article on Town and Country Magazine‘s website suggesting there’s evidence that negates the myths concerning women’s biological clocks. It says that “children born to older mothers thrive better in life, according to a March 2017 study published in the European Journal of Developmental Psychology.” Research also suggests that “women who had kids later than the average age of 31 were less likely to scold or physically discipline their kids. Overall, their more mature and less emotional approach to parenting created children that were better behaved, well-socialized, and emotionally healthier in their pre-teen years.” Other research has found that children of older parents “were taller and healthier, and had more education, were more likely to attend college, and performed better on standardized tests than their siblings who were born first, when their parents were younger.”
I have to stress that this research is European based, where some countries have free education and better access to healthcare, but “may be applicable to countries like the U.S. and the U.K, where women are delaying having kids to pursue education and careers.” With that being said, we should put more emphasis on to each their own.
I used to daydream about the type of mom I want to be, and still do. I wanted to be ready to fully invest in who he or she is and what they want out of life. I wasn’t ready to do that before. I was only concerned with investing in what I wanted out of life. Once I got married, my investments became our investments, then once we knew we were ready to invest in a son or daughter, and give him/her everything in our power, we conceived without tribulation. That’s some divine timing! I feel peaceful, loving, and protective. I guess that’s my maternal instinct kicking in. I can’t wait to meet this person we’ve created for they have no idea how much we love him/her already. This is incredible. This is our legacy. This is God.
Whether you are a mother in your daydreams, expecting, or already have children, I invite you to share the journey of motherhood with me as we can have a dialogue about creating life, living life, and being super heroes. If you have any questions or comments, please write to me below and let’s unite in motherhood. I look forward to hearing from you!